"Where do you work?"
The answer to this is......I don't work.
Or do I?
No.....not the paid type of work anyway.
That's right I'm JUST a stay at home mum, I sit on my fat arse all day drinking tea, dunking biscuits whilst watching Jeremy Kyle on loop, not forgetting to bleed the benefits system dry, That is what a stay at home mum does isn't it??
Since having my babies I've noticed the massive stereotypical views that come with not working...Lazy, benefit scrounging, not being a good role model to my children blah...blah...blah and the list goes on! When I step foot out the door my anxiety starts with how people view me as a mother, especially on the school run, I'm not the one dressed in my work clothes rushing around because I have to quickly drop the kids off and rush to work.....that makes me a bad mother doesn't it? I'm not providing like I should be for my children am I? I'm not showing them that you have to work for money to be able to have nice things? and so it starts......
Here's my background and why I CHOOSE to be a stay at home mum.
I have worked from been 15 (13 if you include 3 paper rounds!) I left school, attended college whilst working nights and weekends, left college and went straight into full-time work. Then at the age of 18 I had my first management role which then followed me around in other jobs up until I had my first child J in 2011. I came from a home where my father brought home the money and my mother stayed at home and watched the children, she did have a night time job when my siblings were younger but gave that up once dad was earning a little more.Very old fashioned but that's how it was and I hold the same views.....I always said from me and the hubs getting married that I didn't want children until we were financially able for me to give up work and look after them myself. ( I know, I know some childen aren't 't planned etc, etc) but this was MY plans.
I didn't want to go back to work and put them in nursery......The fees alone was crazy and I would be working just for someone else to look after them!!?? oo and maybe so we could have some sort of a luxury, like "sky" or fancy holidays, I'd rather give up sky tv and my children only have 60 channels on free view and holiday in a caravan.
I decided to give up my management job and not return to work after my maternity came to and end this was the right choice for us and our family, I am in no way getting at "working mums" that's not what this post is about, its each to their own and what works best for different people and their families, I just wish there wasn't so much stigma attached to the stay at home mums!
My hubby goes to work and provides everything for us, and I know we are really lucky to be in this situation as a lot of parents don't get the choice of whether they should go back to work or not.
Been a stay at home mum, or as a lot of people like to call it "JUST a stay at home mum" is not easy! The word "just" infuriates me! I'm with my children 24 hours of the day except when their in bed which by then I'm usually, ironing, washing and doing the usual daily chores and that's fine as this was MY choice and I know I'm doing what's best for my family, and as much as its exhausting and mentally draining at times it works. I know I'm not "JUST" a stay at home mum, I'm everything my children need me to be. Whatever we as mothers are doing, we are doing it for our children, whether that's going out to work, working away from home or staying home and looking after the home and family, we are all doing the same "job" and that's trying to be the best parents that we can be.
So lets Smile, not judge
Thanks for reading