Wednesday, February 8, 2017

Your son is obese!


My attitude towards my son's school has reached a whole new level this year!





I received a phone call to tell me that my 5-year-old son was classed as "obese" in his weight check that they had done. It doesn't stop there, she proceeded to ask me if I wanted "help" at home with his eating habits!!!!

I'm not quite sure what she was expecting me to say but I don't think she was ready for my response!!

My boy is five years old, FIVE!! he has been weighed and made to feel like there is a problem with his little, innocent body. Why is weighing children even needed in schools? Is this not what our health visitors and g.p's are for?? We worry about eating disorders and bullying all through image, and they're going into schools and labelling 5-year-olds as obese!!

Now my boy is so tall, not tubby...tall. He was born weighing 8lb 5 so not overly big, but bigger than average, now his dad is 6ft 3, his mama (me) is 5ft 10 so were not the smallest of people. His first ever pair of shoes was a size 7 and he was 11 months old! He is now 5 years old and in a size 1.5!

The results of this joke of a weight check were that he is 4ft 5, 4stone and a 22" waist, He is so slim that his trousers fall down if he doesn't wear a belt, yet I have a nurse on the phone telling me that my son is obese!?

I cannot begin to tell you how angry I am about this, Labelling a 5-year-old is just Ludacris, we send our son to school to be educated not to be weighed and labelled!

Has anyone else encountered this?

K
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31 comments:

  1. The world's going crazy!! your son is fine. he's perfect!

    #coolmumclub

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  2. What a joke, he is perfect! I panicked when my daughter got weighed at school (I didn't opt out in time), She is tall and slim but always been 'heavy' on the charts. I completely agree that childhood obesity is an issue but I think they need to look at how they measure obesity. I mean take the BMI scale, how many pro rugby players, fitter and faster than most would be 'technically' high end obese? GAH.
    *puts soapbox away* #coolmumclub

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  3. I know its crazy! they have weight checks with the health visitor though so I'm not totally sure on why they feel the need to do it in school!

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  4. Aww that's awful hun. I wouldn't stand for that either. I don't think schools should weigh children either, there's already enough peer pressure and social pressure, not just on girls but boys too. Xxx

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  5. Crikey that is bad. You only need to look at him to see he is clearly a perfectly healthy boy, and as you say, any BMI metric is clearly because of his height. My daughter is 2.5 and is still in size 4! All creatures great and small eh ;-)
    Thanks for sharing with #coolmumclub

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  6. Thanks ladies! I'm so glad it wasn't just me over reacting!

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  7. This is disgusting! I hated the fact that my daughters were weighed at primary school. Weight is only a small indicator, to be taken in consideration with many other factors - such as the size of the parents! All rugby players are classified as obese and I see nothing at all wrong with them! Alison x #coolmumclub

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  8. In a word yes. We had it with our son (who is as skinny as a rake but played sport so had muscle!) so when it came to my daughter I opted out. I wrote a letter to the school forbidding them to weigh her. In this day and age the last thing our sons and daughters need is more emphasis and pressure on how they look.

    I am opting out of that crap for as long as possible.

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  9. yes Tasha I'm doing that also when my little girl starts! No way am I having this again!

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  10. That sounds awful, I didnt realise that they would phone you up to say something like that, especially at such a young age. I read this post with my 11 year old son and we both thought that the way you reacted is the same as we would of in our household. Your son looks great!
    Mainy
    #fortheloveofBLOG

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  11. I've read about this in the media before, it's happened to lots of parents and their children. It's ridiculous - I think some common sense needs to be used here as it's obvious to the naked eye that your son is not obese. While I understand that they're worried about obesity, surely in cases like this they could cause children to have a complex putting them at risk of eating disorders? #ForTheLoveOfBLOG

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  12. This seems weird, going by the photo. I have one child that is overweight, and 2 that aren't. One eats a lot, but healthy food, just a lot of it. We put him on a secret diet (cutting carbs when we could, upping veges etc) but no good. We started running together, just him and I, and still not much result. We have one last chance when he shoot up in the teen growth spurt, if he stretches out, and then I think we'll have to go to a dr. But if a school rang me I'd still tell them to shove it. #FortheloveofBlog

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    1. Secret so as not to damage his self esteem - ie secret to him.

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  13. Thanks everyone I feel so much better knowing how other parents would feel!! Its just such a young age, Its hard enough when they get to teenagers and its all shoved in their faces through music videos and magazines! but 5!!

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  14. That is completely stupid! It's no wonder kids today are so anxious when they are being labeled like this, it's wrong.

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  15. The checks they do are ridiculous and they measure our kids up against 'average' statistics which is a joke. If your child is particularly tall or particularly small then they will fall off the chart and so follows a letter or phone call. You would think they would use a little bit of common sense and actually check the figures before making that call! Arrgggh! I feel your frustration! #fortheloveofblog

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  16. That's ridiculous. He looks like a normal, healthy five-year-old. And I agree, why are they weighing in schools? How frustrating! #Blogstravaganza

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  17. I've had the same issue. They do have to ask parental permission to weigh your child and they don't disclose the results to the children so I'm sure he wasn't made to feel bad. I was fuming when I was told the same thing however - it's clearly not true and it just shows what nanny state we are living in. They do this again in year 6 by the way so my advice is to say no. #fortheloveofBLOG

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  18. Oh wow, looking at that photo he doesn't look overweight in the slightest. How ridiculous. I was told my son is very underweight (which he is because he hardly eats). He's on the 1st percentile (born on the 75th) and nobody is overly concerned. It's like everyone that's not a rake these days is overweight. It's a joke. I'd be really angry too.

    #coolmumclub

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  19. OMG! I'd have gone insane! Can you make a complaint? Had the nurse even seen your son or was she reading a chart? I really hope you make an official complaint that is heard and taken note of, a long with an apology from them! This kind of thing infuriates me!
    #MarvMondays

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    1. I asked her if she had read his notes and seen his "red" book, as from birth he was always of the 100th centile for his height, but their height isn't even taken into consideration!! so how the hell they get their results is beyond me! its literally just their weight that's recorded then from there its underweight, normal, overweight, obese! So it wasn't even that he was "overweight" it was the next level!!

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  20. I think schools are playing a very dangerous game by highlighting 'issues' with weight at such a young age. I'm baffled that they would ring you when you can see very plainly that your son is the picture of health! I'm not sure how I would handle the situation but I know I wouldn't take it lightly! Thanks so much for linking up to #Blogstravaganza xx

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  21. It seems very strange they have classed him as obese, are their calculations wrong? There is no way your son is overweight! Just a heads up, they also measure and weigh them in Yr. 6. My youngest had hers a wee while ago and I got a call to say she is underweight. I just explained that we are all very petite, but eat like horses and she was quite happy. Try not to worry too much, you know he is fit and healthy and that's what matters most #DreamTeam x

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  22. You already know that I am so angry for you, but reading your post in full has left me fuming...on your behalf. I mean. Really. Completely fuming. How dare they call you to tell you that your son is obese. How very dare they. And it's laughable that they did this, when actually your son is quite obviously no where near this mark. Do they not have eyes! But regardless whether obese or not, I agree with others that this is a very dangerous game indeed drawing attention to the weight of a 5 year old. Shame on them. Thank you for linking up to the #Dreamteam xx

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  23. The BMI is discredited now anyway. Also at age 5, there are many reasons why a child might be overweight and who cares unless they are massive, (see what happens over a few years) but the kids never are in these cases..it just discredits the whole thing,labels kids, makes parents feel they are bad parents and everybody ends up taking no notice. So what's the point?

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  24. This is terrible, they weighed our twins and said one was underweight she eats like a horse and has a small frame I was angry as you were super post #triumphanttales

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  25. Absolutely ridiculous. Why can't these people use their common sense?! I thought BMI wasn't used for kids because of the randomness of growth spurts etc. You have a gorgeous son who is NOT obese #triumphanttales

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  26. not something i've experienced myself with my children but i've heard this story from other parents many times, i do think the school nurses have a good use in regards to health issues, did she actually tell your son he was obese? with all the other children being weighed i'm not sure he would have really understood what the nurse was weighing him for. it's just something that's done at school, we used to get nit checked as kids, it never made me feel dirty or unclean, i just remember it was something that happened

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  27. can't even imagine the things I would have had to say. My daughter loves to eat and could probably afford to lose a few, but if anybody else ever said this about her, I would flip. #triumphanttales

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  28. wow what a joke! this is ridiculous and I cannot believe they have the ordacity to claim such an obviously rubbish statement! Do their eyes not work??
    Thank you for joining us at #TriumphantTales. I hope to see you back next week

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  29. This is obsurd! I would have hit the roof and not come back down. I'm cross that they even weigh children in school - is this not a job for us as their parents to do?! It sounds to me like your little boy is just fine. They really should keep their noses out! Thank you for linking up to #TriumphantTales :)

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