Why does my 5 year old hate me?

I'm writing this post as tears a re falling like waterfalls from my eyes...

What am I doing wrong?

Why does my 5 year old boy hate me?

does he hate me?

Or is it just his favourite thing to say to me at the moment?

Am I a bad parent?

Am I spoiling him or not giving him enough attention?

Am I punishing him enough when he is bad behaved?

Am I not punishing him enough when he's smacking me and banging his door down?

Should I be giving him a smack?

Or is smacking just showing him that its ok to smack?

Fuck!!..

My brain hurts but most of all my heart hurts.

My 5 year old boy is having major meltdowns ALOT this summer.....2/3 times a day or just being  naughty...every day...all day. It usually ends with him kicking, screaming and telling me he hates me.

What am I doing wrong?

Today I have reached a height of emotion, I slammed his door shut sat on the top step of the stairs and the tears fell, my heart broke, a gush of love and heart break just wouldn't stop flowing from my eyes!

It was all over baking cookies! Yes fucking cookies!!!

How do I nip this in the bud? How do I help him? How do I stop this behaviour?

I have a lot of questions to answer and I don't know if I can face them! So today the tears are falling and I'm hoping we can find a way out of this!







One Hull of a Dad
The Pramshed

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  1. Our kids really test us at times, don't they? It's so hard to know what makes them tick - mine is only two so I don't have any advice for a 5-year-old, but most everything is just a phase, right? #fortheloveofBLOG

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    1. I really hope so! People often think its the babies that are hard work, they have nothing on a 5 year old!

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  2. It might be hard at the moment, but I am sure things will calm down. You are not doing anything wrong, try and give yourself a break x
    #fortheloveofBLOG

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  3. gosh they totally test us dont they! my 6 year old is doing the same! #fortheloveofBLOG thanks for linking up xx

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  4. With my youngest son, the temper tantrums started at 3 and didn't end until about 6. At one point I heard "I hate you" every single day and it would be over the silliest things. One, it is a phase they go through of testing their limits and our boundaries. Two, they don't know how to express themselves really in any other way. It's something they are still learning and it is a process for both us parents and the kids. What I used to do is send my son to his room for five minutes. This also gives me time to calm down before talking to him about his behavior. He's 10 now and doesn't have temper tantrums anymore but he still gets mad when I say no and I still have to give us both a time out before talking to him. We parents have to find our own groove of how we deal with temper tantrums but I totally get how exhausting it is and how much it hurts when we experience this from our own children. #oldschoolposts

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